How many blogs have you read about self-care? If you're anything like me, you lost count after a thousand. I love self-care. I believe in self-care rituals. I trust these acts of self-care to nourish our mind and souls as much as they do our bodies. The one problem I have with the act of self-care is just that: it’s an act. Self-care requires action, time, and sometimes money. Obviously, we’re worth all of it, but this year - in my effort to simplify - I encourage you to head into Valentine’s Day not just thinking about self-care, but self-love.

No problem, right?

Although I know self-love doesn’t come easy, it’s work that’s worth investing in. Especially during this time of year when every store aisle and TV commercial blasts you with ways to show love to others. Let’s set our hearts on adding ourselves to that Valentine’s list.

First, slow down. A gentle reminder to breathe deep at the start of each day; give yourself time before you jump into the grind. Work on making time to watch the sunrise, go for walks, and do things for yourself rather than tackling your inbox before you’ve even finished your coffee. The emails will always be there, but there are only so many mornings you get to really start with peace. Let’s change that.

Second, set boundaries. This is an especially difficult one for me, as an artisan and small business owner. My life and my work are constantly bleeding into each other (much to my husband’s chagrin). That’s why this year I’ve taken up crocheting instead of filling my ‘down time’ with research, ads, and the other work stuff that “seems easy” but actually drains my spirit. Setting boundaries can also mean saying no to girl’s night so you can catch up on rest, or sending that call to voicemail so you can call back when you’re in a better headspace for conversation. You don’t have to be everything to everyone at all times. Remember that.